Puppy, I am sure you are right that I would regret not taking the stand I need to.
Coach, thank you for the tips on managing my emotions.
Today, I am struggling a bit because H and I had a conversation last night in which he reaffirmed ending R with OW and even feeling some "peace" about that, but also that there will be "work related" contact for awhile. And, before I could get to the transparency issue, H discussed feeling he still likely feels he will move out for his "own integrity" until we can sort out our M.
I wasn't expecting that curve ball. So, I felt it took away my leverage. Now how do I draw the transparency boundary? How do I enforce it? I just feel at a loss. I ended up just talking about how essential transparency will be whether he lives with me or not... He says he can understand that as a concept and that's how far it goes.
Because I wasn't prepared for that, I don't think I handled it well. He saw weakness in me again when I responded to that curve ball and I feel I have lost ground.
Help... how do I recover from this, how do I enforce a boundary like that, and where do I go from here?
