I'm still getting to grips with boundaries so I hope you will bear with me... I have a question. How do you maintain and/ or enforce your boundary?
A couple of pages ago on this thread I set a boundary with my husband. He continually suggested meeting up and then did not let me know what was happening in regards to plans in a timely manner and more often cancelled me at the last moment. To sum it up, I stated that this behaviour made me feel very frustrated and I could not see an instance in which we could meet under these conditions again.
He has emailed me regarding some other stuff and has asked to meet me again. Here are his words
'It would be really good to meet up, I want to hear all about what's happening at work. However I have more driving to do next week so I know next week is out. Perhaps the week after? I won't cancel on you, I promise.'
I don't know how to answer in a strong manner to maintain my boundary as I do not want to fall into old patterns again. This is the new strong me (who is finally divorcing him for adultery after 2 years and he should receive the papers next week) but he seems to respond better to the stronger me and I don't want to sound like sappy me again.
I wondered if anyone has any suggestions as to how I should reply.
Perhaps
'Hi, yes I could meet you, however I am very busy trying to squeeze everything in before I go away so let me know by the weekend before when and where you fancy meeting.'
