So I feel like I am going a little crazy. Too much thinking and analysis of my sitch. I guess I am in denial of OW. Maybe she truly is just a friend (I know that most EA/PA start this way - but then why have I never heard about her) and am I jumping to conclusions without any proof or hard evidence if I assume EA/PA. I am trying not to be consumed with how involved H is with OW but it is hard. But I really want to know (not the little details) whether it has developed into EA or PA.
Two of H's top complaints over the last few years 1. Not enough sex 2. Not appreciated for his hard work
So how to I fill his 'love tank/bank' at this stage without pursuing?
I have been trying to say little words of appreciation ie. saying thanks for taking out garbage, doing yardwork. I have been stepping up in the meal dept, trying to make nicer dinners, doing a little more baking, getting the kids to decorate lunch bags and put together his lunch/snack for work. I make sure I ask him about his day. (And I am just in awe that he does not ask what the kids and I do during the day. Does not even ask DD.)
So now I think "why am I doing AOS for him, making life at home more pleasant if he is having EA/PA?" OW meets his physical/emotional needs and I provide him with a great housekeeper/nanny service. Now he really has the best of both worlds. Or am I showing him what he would be missing if we S or D.
