If the trip was planned for just you & the kids, and yet she asked to go....then of course you let her. But this is what I was refering to:

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If she comes we might have fun..she'll see what shes giving up?


The WAW doesn't respond to these things like you hope she will. She is not going to "see what she's giving up" and get all repentant over about leaving the family. That's why I said that she has already thought about it.

While you DB, you are not to rub these sort of things in her face. You don't pull out family pictures and make remark about the kids, etc., hoping it will get to her.

If this is the motive behind the trip, she will see through you loud & clear and see it as pursuing. I don't think she will go for it. Not unless you can stop thinking about how it may be affecting her. But if you make statements about family life, the future, marriage, etc., it will completely turn her off. She is a WAW.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!