actually, I had my own friends as well, almost all of whom have drifted away over the past year. they may have been there in the beginning, but now I get "I'm really busy right now, I'll give you a call in a week or so." Over and over. and believe me, I've tried many times to stay connected. and whatever he told our mutual friends definitely led them to ignore me. eventually, the rejection hurts to much to keep trying. believe me, I tried hard to discuss anything except my divorce when I was with them--because that's just tedious. and family? I was an only child, both my parents died long ago, they were never at all close to extended family--and I haven't heard from any of them since my parents' respective funerals.
I tried volunteering someplace on Thanksgiving. Called at least 5 different places. None called me back. I tried hard to "have a plan" for the holiday, but they all fell through.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012