Yes, I believe it's normal for WAS to be emotionally detached, especially if OM is involved. In my sitch, I was guilty of the infidelity, and for awhile I was in very deep. Apparently, I was more than willing to jeopardize the marriage and kids. I had a huge awakening. What I did was selfish and it was all a fantasy. There were of course, other underlying problems in the marriage which may have contributed.
Yes, I turned around and realized how much I loved my wife and our family together. My wife's busting and bringing the affair to light also helped clear my head of the fog I was in. It took me roughly the same amount of time the affair lasted to get over the OW (with no contact).
After reading many of these threads, I realize my wife kind of DB'ed me when she found out. It worked too. She has never been so attractive as she is to me now. Read Divorce Remedy for starters.
