Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok, some more amplifying data. I am secheduled to return home for 2 weeks mid Dec. I then re-deploy back to theater at end of Dec. I do not return home for good until March timeframe. The PI will be finished by the time I go home in Dec, should I confront W with evidence-or wait? Also, should boys/family/friends be made aware-should I expose her? If so, how do I handle THAT? How should I handle Christmas-ask her to celebrate with us-or say nothing? Do I invite her to join us? Sorry, I have so many questions, scenarios going through my mind right now. Thanks.