here we go again

[bluerain]

Hi Jstar! Happy Thanksgiving! Im sorry that you arent feeling so hot, take it easy tonight.

Of course your marriage CAN be saved, anything can happen. What if you looked at it this way: This is about saving YOU, making you into a better wife and learning how to have healthy patterns in your relationships. You are to learn some coping skills, and build relationships/friendships that will give you a better social support system. Now, as all of that happens, your marriage may or may not follow suit.

You should be calm, confident, and upbeat at the meeting. Dont be desperate, or pursuing in front of him. In the private part of the meeting say what ever you want, but if hes there, DB your butt off. If there is a possibility that he wont show, you need to be prepared for that too. If he says its over, dont argue with him. I know that in your head you will be saying "How could you do this to me?! Dont you love me?! Who have you become?!" But what I want you to say out loud is "I understand that you feel that way" Validate him and his thoughts, emotions, concerns, you can say that you understand that he is feeling something without agreeing that its right, or deserved, you know what I mean?