The timing is still a big issue, the secrecy, and now what he's fuming about is that I had mentioned to S19 about couple of months ago that we were seeing a MC to learn how to talk better. I didn't plan that, it was a natural progression of the conversation, and H wasn't there to ask before I did. We were talking about his adjustment issues at college, and I was worried that he was picking up on our troubles and was upset. Turns out he hadn't. I didn't tell H afterward, and I should have. It didn't seem like a big deal, S was calm about the whole thing. My mistake to bring it up, and not telling H after.
