P17....stop it. Just stop all this stuff about thinking of reasons to contact IM to contact "her". There will ALWAYS be something that comes up in life that you'll think you need to let her know about. Draw the line for yourself and say, "This is it!" Doesn't matter what she's left at your house....stop worrying about it. If you are thinking about it all the time...that means it is controling you. You are allowing your thoughts about her to control your life!
This problem with your mom and you being mad at W for not contacting mom, etc. Why on earth would you expect her to do the right thing??? Stop and think about it! Didn't I tell you that she is not the same woman you M and to stop thinking of her in terms like that? You're still doing it. Guess who it's hurting?
You get totally obessed. You just "had" to do some type of action! Couldn't rest until you sent that NC letter......then you have to explain it? Then you get so obsessed with NC! Now you're obsessed about how to get her stuff to her. Just stop it. If she's not concerned about it...pack it up and set it by the curb. You need to move on!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
