People who were brought up in a clean, organized home is very frustrated when their M home is cluttered. I think it carries over into their other areas of life and they feel like something is out of control when the house is like that. Your W was probably not taught how to clean house on a daily basis. Or she may know how to clean, but doesn't know how to keep it that way. I understand what you are saying and I have been guilty of doing the same thing when I see some women's lack of organization skills. OTOH, it really doesn't mean they are a bad person or anything like that.....most just don't have their priorities straight, don't know how, and there are a few who really just don't care.
I had to laugh about your way of letting your W & kids know you were not happy about having to do the house work. I'll bet they did nothing but maybe glance over at the loud noise you made slamming the stuff around. Funny how that is. BTW, are you taking time to train your kids how to keep their rooms neat? They won't do it if you don't follow up on them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
