Counseling conundrums

[Gardener]

Good to hear from you and I'm glad it's been relatively uneventful so far.

Hi guys- I refused to engage him on this one.

Good for you.

After all, he doesn't beat me, and we don't fight everyday (he goes after me verbally in those bad R discussions which have been about every other month). So why do I feel that I have it so bad? And honestly, I didn't know how to explain it.

Sounds almost like you are "feeding into the role he's written for you," as SDFoundGirl said.
Don't waver.
Re-read your posts.