Dinner was uneventful, thank God. H hasn't said much of anything today, and he's watching a movie with the kids now, so we haven't discussed anything further. H did lock me out of some our joint computer databases- like our reference database with all the passwords. So glad I copied that earlier- I figured he would do that.
His big complaint was about the kids- that I'm gonna ruin the holidays for the kids, plus S19 just recently regained his equilibrium after leaving for college- he had a bad adjustment period, but now he's happy and feeling good about school. H is afraid I'll set him off again, but I think H is underestimating how strong he is, how strong they both are.
He is also upset that I felt the need to be secretive about this. He figured this would a jointly planned, gradual exit. I guess that means he expected me to do this on his terms and schedule. "Why did you need to do this now? Things have been bad for a year- you couldn't wait another month? If you're dead-set on screwing Christmas, why didn't you leave today?!?" I refused to engage him on this one.
