One thing that I am struggling with is that my wife is going to the "Parenting after separation" course tonight which in my province is manditory for a legal separation to be granted.
How do I handle this with her? I mean do I ask how it was? Do I try and validate her on it or what?
Why would you ask about it? It seems like an excuse to bring up an unpleasant topic. I'd just leave her be.
Originally Posted By: gettinsomenads
I guess I could be really tired and in bed when she gets home.
That would work; or, find someplace else to be and come home later.
Originally Posted By: gettinsomenads
I think basically of course it feels like one more step towards separation and I don't want to talk about it and get pissed off and fight about it. Or get needy about it.
That's because it is a step towards separation; but you're not there yet. There is a long way to go before this is over.
If you're going to get emotional or upset about it, then definitely don't bring it up. Getting emotional about it is likely to strengthen her resolve.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
