Ups and Downs

[Gardener]

EB,

She moved out while I was at work today. I didn't know she was going to do that.

That sucks.
You may wind up feeling it was better that you weren't there, though. Who knows?

She's gone. She has my S and my dog. I am drunk. Watching Transformers.

Sorry.

I can handle this.

Yep. May not seem so, tonight, but yes, you can.

[Energizer Bunny]

W wants to have lunch as a family. If I say no, she will say its my fault S missed out on Thanksgiving.

Ill do it, but will keep it short. Ill spend the rest of the day with S. W will have to leave. S and I may go to a neighbor's and watch football.

You have good Turkey day plans?

[givingitmyall]

Only do it if you want to and its the right thing for you. Consequences, man, consequences.

Yoou are going to see your S anyway, right. So her excuse isn't valid. You will be missing lunch with HER. Noot S.

I am home for Thanksgiving with W and kids. Will it be our last one together? Don't know, and I'm not gonna worry about it now. Live in the present.

[Butterfly1]

I'm sooooo sorry to hear this. It hurts. I know. But she hasn't divorced you. I know how lonely it is, but just enjoy the good times with your son.

PS Happy Thanksgiving

[Lll54]

This may be the best thing to happen to your sitch. I feel like when my H actually left he started to realize what he is missing and what he wants in life. Also I wouldn't be where I am today. I have learned so much about myself and who I am, and what kind of mom and wife I really want to be. So when my H finally puts his head on straight and comes home I will be ready to build an everlasting HEALTHY marriage. When H and I did the whole "in house separation" thing, it just wasn't the same. You are probably realizing alot of things right now, things you may not have looked at if she was still there. Take this time to grow. It will better yourself as a person. It will give you more strength then you knew you had. I promise you that.

[Energizer Bunny]

Happy Thanksgiving

Nice to hear from you all. Thanks for stopping by Britt. I will have to check on your thread. (My phone literally wont let me type the word s.itch)

W brought S home this morning. I politely turned down the offer of having Thanksgiving dinner together. S and I will go to a neighbor's house. They have kids for him to play with.

Britt, I hope you're right. I have thought for a while that she would have to go before things would ever get better. She's having a pretty rough day. Thanksgiving alone in her news place. She didn't seem to want to leave when she came to drop S off. I tried o be polite, but not overly comforting. It's a weird balance. She was in tears at one point. I did put my arms around her before she left.

I am fighting calling to check on her. At least she's not acting like a robot. I feel bad for her believe it or not.

They say you don't know what you got til it's gone. It may be horrible grammar but I hop it's true for her. I know it's woken up a lot of us LBS's.

[givingitmyall]

EB,

I know this is tough on you, but you are doing the right thing. This is a situation SHE created. Do not save her from her decision. Making this real for her IS the right thing to do.

And don't call her. Why would you? Its not out of spite - its not saving her from a situation SHE has created. Don't know if doing this will bring her back, but saving her right now will NOT.

Be strong and enjoy your afternoon with S.

[Energizer Bunny]

I have resisted calling, but feel horrible about it. I still have the feelings of a husband whose wife is in pain.

[givingitmyall]

Not to put too fine a point on it, but is she acting like your W right now? Then why should she expect the support of a H? Let yourself off the hook.

If she were acting like your W, then of course you woul do what your old habits, and heart, are telling you to do. But, she isn't, now, is she?

[Energizer Bunny]

Nope.

I think she needs to go through this on her own too. Logically, this makes sense. Emotionally, its all just a mess.