Counseling conundrums

[SDFoundGirl]

He has to project all his guilt and bad feelings on you; that's what he does...always.

Can you imagine yourself as a giant mirror so that when he starts his spew it's reflected back at him? Everything he says to you is really about him.

Bunny, you are finally putting yourself first, finally deciding to take care of YOU. Your kids will be fine...your H? Who knows. I know the only chance you have is to change what YOU are doing and to stop feeding into the role he's written for you.

Be strong! At least your parents are coming over...it's all going to be okay.

I mean, what did he think? That you'd be his doormat for the rest of his life, no matter what his bad behavior was? Oh, yeah; he DID.

When my H and I were in the thick of things, I had a mantra that I chanted over and over in my head: DON'T OWN OTHER PEOPLE'S CRAZY. I had enough of my own crazy to work on, so I didn't need to take responsibility for anyone else's.

Don't own his crazy!

(((Bunny)))

SD