can pursuing a WAS be a 180?

[avermont]

Oh, yes, I have learned the hard way that keeping aloof to avoid pain is not the way to live. Got the pain anyhow.

So I am working on opening up, etc. I think I can give of myself with no expectations. I am on my local rescue squad, and will soon be working with our local immigrant workers on how to access EMT services. So I do reach out to give and participate.

But how to give to the WAH? I am making the 180's of being open--the pain of the break up just cracked my reserved facade wide open. There's no doubt I would be 180 in any work with X.

I have been reading the boundaries threads, but still not seeing how it applies to me right now. In future, should X approach me to try and reconcile, I understand there would be boundaries about the R with OW being over, but right now that doesn't seem to apply. Forgive me if I am being dense about that.

I am trying to read Uncoupling, but honestly it made me so sad I couldn't handle it. Doing a bit better reading Coming Apart. That doesn't hurt quite so much.

thanks for taking the time to reply during a holiday!