[quote]How can I keep the strong, confident me while rebuilding my marriage? Any tips?/quote]
Do you understand why this is important to a man?
As much as us men want to provide, lead, fix and love our women. We also want a confident, strong, loving, good-looking, interested, and wise partner. A man worries much more than he will ever tell his wife and if he sees his wife, scared, worried, insecure and needy that just gives us a whole HUGE dose of more responsibilities to tend to. A wife wants to hear about his worries but it won't happen in this dynamic. He can only open up and love you better if you are able to handle it. We want our wives as equals. That is the see-saw analogy in the book. We want balance in our marriage.
The next step is to be strong, wise and confident on your own. This allows your spouse to grow and complement you. This is differentiation. Two independent people growing, loving, feeling, and moving together but not dependent on each other.
