Send the centerpiece BBJ. It's about time that Dan steps up to the plate and does soem of the dirty work. He will have to explain why you are not there. It is his side and he should announce it...not you.
Have a happy thanksgiving BBJ and stop trying to make things easy on HIM! I have the same tendancies....at the end of the day it was their choice that got us here. It is about time that they start paying for those choices.....