Oh well Ali, you can have disagreements and it still be a normal healthy rel. I am sure you have made up by now. Good for you for speaking up,after having done all you can and putting up with "things" ie mil incl. The very least he could do was agree to a family gathering. Did he give any real reason for this? Maybe he is just not up to it with his depression but he was up for you meeting his friends etc, so that is slightly off kilter.
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Afterall, its pretty shocking that someone can up and walk out, but would he really do it again?
Ali, you read the boards-need I say more, thats why it is still important that you don't get swallowed up in "his" life, keep doing your own things on occasions until yr relationship truly is a partnership and 2 way street and even then keep it up. A lesson I wished I had learnt sooner. Bending and compromise is great that's what it is all about but even given his depression he does seem to be rigid. Don't let fear that he will up and go again stop you from being you. It is early days yet and bound to be in yr mind esp. when you disagree but never let it cripple you so you can't state your needs and wants. Remember how far you have come. That would be the kiss of death to you both ever reaching a healthy loving and deep relationship that has lastability.
