AS you recall, I told STBXW that I would not be able to take D19 and D17 while she took S11 to a hockey tournament. I was available, but would not take them based on "setting boundaries"
She would not leave "No" alone, as you recall, and sent an email saying "I will have to tell S11 that he can't go to the tournament, because his father won't help" She won't leave D19 and D17 home alone, because they ARE untrustworty. I got it.
What a M.F............WHO DOES THAT!!!! I sent it to my lawyer and let it go.
Where to begin.......Around 6PM last night S11 called and said "Mom and I only need to stay on Friday night, so can the girls stay with you?" I told him that I would discuss it with his mother, not him. How did he know ANY of this!!!!
About 20 minutes later, I get two texts from him asking me the same thing.
Then he calls AGAIN!!! I told him I would not speak about it with him.
2 minutes later, STBXW's name comes up on the phone. GAME ON, HERE WE GO!!!!
She begins in her best sing-songy voice: "Hiiii! I've got S11 here and he's hysterical because you won't tell him whether or not you can take the girls" I can hear him. He's beyond sad, because NOW he thinks he can't go to the tournament.
I said to STBXW: "How dare you do this! How dare you manipulate the kids to get your way! I already told you NO. Let it go"
She responds: "I CANNOT leave the girls alone and S11 can't go if I need to stay home", all within ear shot of S11.
I NOW FEEL HORRIBLE FOR MY LITTLE GUY, WHO'S BIT&H OF A MOTHER IS OPENLY MANIPULATING THE SITUATION. I feel like I have an AK-47 pointed at my temple!
What happened next, is that I guess I just reacted out of gut instinct for him. I can't win. All of my kids have already been so manipulated.
I said to STBXW: "The girls don't have transportation" She responded "I'll drop them off". I said "Not good enough. They both work on Saturday, and I'm not driving them. I want them to have a car"
As those of you know who have followed my thread, STBX's marrried boss and her were doing the horizonatal bop while I was in Iraq. He leased a Jeep for D17, which STBX will NEVER allow either girl to use to help me out in the slightest, including driving to my place.
I figured if I'm going, I'm going to draw blood. STBX responded "You mean the vehicle that you're taking me to court over?"
I responded "If you mean the Jeep that the guy you were having sex with when I was in Iraq leased for my daughter without permission, thats the one"
Silence. "I responded "You did say you wanted to compromise....right?
Well, the girls will stay with me Friday night, with "The Jeep"
I FEEL HORRIBLE!!!! I FEEL LIKE A GUN WAS PUT TO MY HEAD BY A SICK, MANIPULATIVE WOMAN. I FEEL LIKE I JUST REINFORCED HER RIDICULOUS BULLDOZER MANIPULATIVE BEHAVIOR.
All I could think of was my little guy not being able to go to hockey. It killed me. You all know how I feel about him!
Of course, Gym Woman is furious with the situation too. She also said, "Well, it looks like she won again. She just won't go away. You never know when she'll just pop up again!"
She has been great. She told me "I'd be devasated if we weren't together", but how much can she take before she says "F..it!"
I go to the "Special Masters" on 4 December. How much do you want to bet that STBX manages to derail that too!!!!!
For someone who SO desperately wanted a divorce she JUST WON'T GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
