Is this the end of my marriage?

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P,sorry for repeating my q about wanting kids---I misread an answer!

That's okay. I hope I didn't come across the wrong way given my frame of mind just now.

Now, I just find it hard to think your W is actually evil although she may be acting like it. Let's brainstorm explanations for not going to see your mum:

I know. I understand the reasons. I just keep thinking that if it were me ... but then as a friend said last night. She is not me.

As you can tell, I am not a believer in a cookie cutter one size fits all plan, so if it is eating you alive not knowing why your W doesn't want to see your mum, then find a way to ask her.

After I wrote my message above I went to bed to sleep on it. I thought to myself that my W had been given two opportunities to come down and see my mum and she ignored them (at that point). She is a big girl, why do I need to hold her hand and keep asking and asking. She knew what she had to do.

My W is a coward who will not face what she has done and she will not even have the guts to face a dying woman she is deeply hurt. That is absolute cowardice and selfishness.