Not sure what to do

[bluerain]

When I talked to H, I would just note things about his friends, oh I talked to so and so, and he said such-and-such! I knew that an important thing for him was his motorcycle, so that was something that we could talk about. I would try and touch on things that I knew he was interested in.

I guess that Im not trying to convince you to make things easier on her... just to consider HIS experiences.

And, I know that I have told you before, this will have damage on him, it may not be wholly apparent right now, but it will be sooner or later.

I think that this christmas (and christmas is a big deal) you should let it be the entire separated, divorced parents christmas, either you get him, or she does, or you split the day, and since its your day in the regular schedule, you should have him. Let her feel the gravity of the choice she has made.

Im sorry if I sound contradictory stu, I rarely think that there is an entirely "right" or "wrong" approach.