I'd appreciate a copy of the list. It will give me more ideas.
I understand what your saying about the holidays and Christmas, but she decided to break up our family. Not me. Am I bitter, Yes.
Why should I make things easier on her ? I won't stop our son from seeing her on Christmas day, but at the same time, she can't stop me from seeing him. She belives that a divorce will make her happy. She needs to realise the true impact a divorce has on a family. If I give her what she wants, she won't see it. Thats been my problem, I have always been too accomodating. What ever she has wanted, I have given to her. Have you heard the saying "Do what you've always done, and you'll always get what you've always got" or "Whats the definition of Insanity: doing the same thing over and expectging a different result". I need to do something different for the sake of our family.
I won't say no to the holiday (if she is planning on one), but I will be telling her I need to think about it. If she asks me why, I will use my excuse as mentioned above. At least that will make her think about it.
Maybe this isn't the best approach, and it could go either way. It could be good for our family in that she has a chance to realise the impact of divorce on a family, or she will resent me.
I'm still in two minds as to how I approach it. She may not even bring these two items up. I guess I need to prepare as much as possible for Sunday night.
Bluerain, your right, this is complicated stuff and I do appreciate all the help I am getting.
