Not sure what to do

[bluerain]

I used to make lists too. If you need them they are there, if not, well, no big deal.

Why whould you say no to her taking him on a holiday? Im not arguing with you, just asking for the pros and cons. What a lucky little boy to be so well travelled! I think that before you make decisions its important to really focus on the pros and cons and ask yourself why you are tempted to make that choice. If it has ANYTHING to do with making her unhappy, its probably the wrong choice to make... Now Im not talking about just giving her the D because she thinks that it will make her happy, Im talking about you intentionally trying to give her a hard time in matters outside the D and separation. I think that in these situations, its important to be the proverbial "bigger man". My take on it is, if you know that you always did the right thing, always took the high road, you wont ever have to answer to anyone.

Since the conversation is supposed to be about plans for your son during his school holiday, it seems like it might be appropriate to discuss Christmas. But that being said, I dont think that you should try to keep her from him on Christmas... Boy, this stuff is complicated!