I agree that it will be good for you to not see him as often. And maybe it will make him see that you are serious.

I think that having D18 come give you a hand is a great idea. Is there a neighbor that could sit with D2? Do you go to a church? Maybe theres someone there. Does anyone that you work with have a daughter that is old enough to babysit?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...