Dan's grandparents are the only ones left on either side of the family. When we were first together, there were 4 others who have passed away over time.
Anyway, his maternal grandparents are still living. And they really like me. Grandpa M actually told my mom once that I was his favorite granddaughter!
Anyway, no one has told them that we are divorcing. We got together last Christmas and Dan and I were "trying" then so I didn't say anything. I saw them around Mother's Day but it was a big family gathering at a restaurant. I went b/c I wanted to see them.
Anyway, they are in their late 80s. And they are hosting the Thanksgiving celebration on Saturday. Dan and the kids are going, I am not. I was going to send them a centerpiece/arrangement (my mom works at a flower shop) since I won't be there. Or send a card wishing them a happy holiday. However, I know they don't know we have split up.
How should I handle this? This is the first gathering for H's extended family that I have NOT gone to. His Uncle and his family will be there too. Uncle Bob loves me to death and has often told me he likes me better than his other nieces, too. We have the same sense of sarcasm! Anyway they would be blown away to know that we are separated/divorcing. I just hate to be the one to tell them, and I don't want Dan to think I am trying to cause trouble. But I love them and I want them to know I am thinking of them.
Suggestions?? I am guessing Dan will just tell them I am spending time with my family...
