Sandi thanks. My W is a mental mess right now. Saying she is all over the place is an under statement. She invited my uncle to thanksgiving dinner. This is after she said no more family meals. So he is here now. She went to school and is now with her friend from school comforting her as she lost her mom a few months ago. So this will horrible of me but I knew she wouldn't come home tonight with the family waiting for her. There is always an excuse why she has to be out. Just tired of it. She is constantly letting the kids down. Tonight it is my daughter who is waiting for her to come home.
My wife was never this self centered. She goes back and forth. So many people think she is bi polar. It is just so tiring. I do not know how people do it when there is someone that has been diagnosed with real mental illness. So far I am just in a waiting game til July 22. That will be 1 yr of being physically seperated in the same house. It is a requirment in my state. I just don't know how anal going to last. It started in March the night before my D bday. It then ended/ began on July 21.
She just bounces back and forth. Had all day with the kids and she did nothing with them. She had her friend and her kids over. My kids are ticked. Yet she says she wants her time alone with the kids. She makes promises like going ice skating and then it doesn't happen. This is a constant. She had last Friday night and invited her friend over w kids and the kids went to the basement to play and watch TV. My kids were ticked. I am just not sure what 2 do any longer. I was trying to think of boundries etc but I hit a wall. I was told to let her continue to fail. The kids will soon catch on. I think they have. That is why I have a hard time leaving them to do things for me on the weekends. Well enough rambling. You helped we back in April. Explained 2 me about what my wife might be feeling do 2 her EA. We got to a point of recon and then hit a point where she couldn't continue with MC. So this is where I have ended up.
