feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Gnosis]

Hi Luv,

I've been holding off and procrastinating on getting back to you. Your H's behavior has brought back a lot of memories and I'm kind of digesting and re-analyzing them. I'd like to give you the best possible way to handle this.

This I can tell you in the meantime:

1) As difficult as this is don't take his behavior as an attack on your personally.

2) In the meantime, give him as much space as you can.

3) As hard as it is, do not criticize, condemn or complain to him about anything -- this INCLUDES body language. e.g. roll-eyes, stomping off...

e.g. your running to your room last night... don't think he didn't notice that... and yes, this counted against you. Please don't do that again. This counts against you.

4) Be cool, calm and collected at all times. Smile.

5) Tell the kids to give him a wide berth.

I hope to give you a looooong explanation soon. I've been racking my mind on how to formulate the words; in a way for you to understand his behavior, based on the answers you gave me.

ALL of this is based on the information that you are certain that there is no OW in the picture. If there is, then all bets are off. An OW/EA requires different 'treatment'.