Can I save my marriage?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Talked a bit, at the end of conversation he tried to state when we will talk next, but I interuppted him and told him I'd talk to him wed. when I come grab the boys. Ha!

Well, you can ALWAYS get a man's FULL ATTENTION, when you "grab the boys!" YOW -- OUCH!!!!!

[Ready2Change]

C'mon Britt... toe the line girl. Use them feminine instincts of yours. Pick his closest spy with whom you are on good terms with, connect with them and in the course of conversation casually drop your spicy gossip in.

Example: You're on good terms with SIL, whom you know will blab to him the minute you get off the phone. Call her up. Talk about the weather or whatever. Somewhere you mention, "Hey girl, I've just got to tell you this! I met this cute guy at work today. Wow, is he hot! And he asked me out. Can you believe it!" and then wait for the fish to bite with the question, "So, what did you do?" ... and then you act all nervous... "I shouldn't have told you about that. Just forget about it OK?" ... when she pushes for more... you say, "Nothing happened. Just forget about it. Please don't say anything." .... and that is how it's done.

Other ideas: Insinuation is your friend. Ask SIL WHERE SHE bought HER sexy dress. Then respond "Do you know somewhere else I can go (closer) or (Sooner)." Then no details about why.

[chatterbug]

WAS's nephew bet me dinner that he would go on a date before I did. So I waited 6 weeks and then asked where we were going for dinner...

He told his sister and then I had SIL call me to see how I was doing. I talked upbeat about how I was having a great week.

Did not mention another thing about it.

[Lll54]

So I just don't know why this has to be soo hard. I feel like somedays I won't make it. My heart is being ripped in two.

We had a wonderful friday night. Chris made some very good comments about us. He was physical with me. He called me each night the next two nights and then when I went to get the boys today. He was cold again. Not mean or rude just not like he was friday night. He also asked me what my plans are for Christmas. Well two night ago, you want to hang things on "our" walls, buy a tv for "our" bedroom, fix our deck in the spring, you supposedly "miss home" but now you have no intentions of coming home again by asking about my plans for Christmas. I honestly felt friday like he was trying to indirectly tell me he is ready to come home, but today its the opposite. I don't know what to do.

One event happened. I got annonymous flowers at work! As good as H and I were doing I thought they were from him. So the next time I talked to him I asked him. He said no they weren't. He then asked if I knew who they were from, but if they weren't from him then I have no idea who they were from? Then today when I talked to him later, he asked if I got more flowers at work. I said no, he obviously asked cause it was bothering him. Then when I picked up the kids he asked AGAIN if I figured out who they were from. And then made the comment, "Well, that's good for you, you have guys chasing after you" I said, ya I guess.

Then he saw us out of his sisters house. I don't know what to do. My MC thinks I need to sit down with him and talk about this confusion. I don't know. Help please.

[Gnosis]

I hope you liked the flowers.

Actually Britt this is good. I love it! I couldn't have scripted this better myself. EXCELLENT.

"Well, that's good for you, you have guys chasing after you"

Ya, I guess wasn't a good enough response. You should have said, "Yeah! It's cool isn't it? I wonder who it is?"

So what do you do? NOTHING.

Your little jackal is a little upset now because he is in a dilemma between... his fantasy life or his beautiful wife. Someone out there is chasing after his bride. Will this boy step up to the plate and become a man?

Let's wait and see. Until then, business as usual. Be happy. You're in demand.

(Oh, and no, I didn't send them)

[Lll54]

Aww, Gnosis, well guess I can check you off the list...too bad..hehe

I know its bothering him, he's mentioned it 4 times in the last two days and I have only brought it up once when I originally asked him if it was him. Do you think that could be why he was the way he was today? Asking about xmas plans really threw me off, especially after our awesome night friday. I'm not going to do or say anything, just keep going.

thanks gnosis.

[TrentC]

Aww, Gnosis, well guess I can check you off the list...too bad..hehe

Much as I might like to take credit, I can't either. Sorry.

You may have a real secret admirer out there! (Or at least a friend willing to play one in order to make H jealous...)

[Lll54]

I thought maybe it was a friend at first, but I have asked everyone, nobody will fess up to it. I dunno.

Trent, you think that's why he was off again today? And why he brought up xmas?

[TrentC]

I thought maybe it was a friend at first, but I have asked everyone, nobody will fess up to it. I dunno.

Then let it go and take it for the compliment it is.

Trent, you think that's why he was off again today? And why he brought up xmas?

It's entirely likely.

Just let him stew. You are finally getting the hang of it, so don't give up just yet.

[Gnosis]

Pssssssst!!!! Britt does this ring a bell?

P.S. Got hit on today at work. A patient came in and flirted with me like crazy. Wow, what a great feeling. Has anybody ever mentioned things like this to their spouses inconspicuouly?

I'd start looking there...