Is this the end of my marriage?

[MHL]

P17,
I am so sorry about your Mum, I will pray for you and your family. (forgive me, who is IM)

If I may offer some advice, which I hesitate to do b/c I would say we are both more in need of advice then in the position of providing advice. FWIW, I have/had an anger management problem and went to anger management counseling for about 7 weeks and I learned a few things.

It is okay to feel anger and fully experience it, it is not okay to become our anger. When we beccome out anger we do and say things that we later regret and end up feeling bad about what we did or said. It sounds like you have considered the alternative that it might be some other reason she has not replied. I would go with that assumption before I would jump to other conclusions w/o more info.

Probably your W is embarrassed about her behavior and feels bad and does not want to face your Mum. There is a reason you still love your W and that part of her you still love would not just ignore the texts. I bet she is anguishing over it right now. The fact is you just don't know. As hard as it might be I would keep up the NC, you did what was right and the ball is in her court, you can't control what she does.

Also, you control what you feel not her. Probably you hate what she is doing and don't really hate her, that is the whole reason you are in pain over this, I know I am right there with you. While it is terrible that your Mum is not well, your W expects you to call or text her. If you don't call or text she will start to wonder why. This is the whole point of the NC right? The A will break we just have to be patient, you are strong and you will make it.