It's like trying to decide if it's easier having them home or out of the house.
Some our heartbroken when they move out. Others are heartbroken when they continue to live at home and can see everything their spouse is doing. I am one of those. For over a year, I've seen H come home really late, not come home at all, take off on weekends, and text ow back when she texts him, right in front of me.
So, whether there is op or not, its still a heartbreaker. I thought ow would be a deal breaker for me also, but it wasn't. No one was more surprised than me at the way I've chosen to deal with it. I have to just keep telling myself that he's not himself right now. The one I married, would never have done this to us. It's sad.
MJ
(((MJ)))
There really is no right or easier to go through this. I often wonder if my H isn't himself, or if this is who he really is.
