WAW on suicide watch, what now???

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I know patience is the key thing here and I have to GAL.

The key thing here I think it detachment. It is incredibly hard to do and I feel I am only now getting a chance to do it but my sitch has turned very sour and I think it's actually hatred and anger that is coming out rather than detachment.

However, what did help me is this article - http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

Detachment is not about giving up, it's about being loving and caring but also realising that the WAS can't be fixed by us and that they must fix themselves.

I find the difficult times for me are when I am doing things that she normally did, especially cooking dinner. That is a bad time for me b/c I am not that good at it and she was/is great at it. That is the loneliness for me and at times can cause stress.

I hear you absolutely. The TV program that you both used to watch, the advert that you used to see and laugh at, books, places, a few words you overhear, even the phone ringtone. I don't think you will ever be able to hear those things and not think of the WAS. I think you will just get to a stage where you can handle it.

With regards to cooking - get a few cooking books. I used to love to cook before WAW left. Have cooked maybe twice in those four months. But at least for you, you can learn how to do it.

Thanks for the post, its good to know that you are not alone and there are others going through exactly what you are going through.

Although I was indecisive, this forum has been a godsend to me. I really don't know what I would have done without it.