I think this is a common misconception. Ultimatums are controlling behavior; boundaries are not.
An ultimatum is "Do XXX or YYY will happen." Controlling
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A boundary is "I feel WWW when you do XXX. Because of that, if you do XXX then YYY will happen." Boundary because you explain your feelings; which should lead the other person to make an informed choice.
And YYY is OUR behavior.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
