Thanks Cyrena. I have my 'taking a bathroom break" as a way out...I did go upstairs to read a magazine once after getting upset by H and he came up to see what I was doing. When I was 'fine and friendly' he got confused and said he 'hated when I do that"... :-)
I know this will all help me be a better, more mature, person. I thinks it just stinks when the one you love so much turns to be so cruel and snipey...it hurts more than if it was a snooty neighbor.
I'm an emotional and empathetic person to begin with so thickening up my skin is a good move for me. I'll check out the book you mentionned.
I think I've been more vulnerable lately because I'm getting worn out emotionally.
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