Yikes! Need help, please.

[K4D]

Sometimes I wish mine had an OW. It would be easier to find some logic in it.

No you don't. It hurts when they have someone else. But I understand wanting to have some logic to reasoning.

Kevin

[Super Girl]

You know what, Kevin, you're right. It does hurt. But for me, it would be a deal breaker so it would be much easier to cut him loose.

It was a stupid thing to say, and I am sorry if I offended anyone.

[K4D]

I don't think anyone took offense. I think we all knew what you meant.



Kevin

[Virtually_Handsome]

It hurts not having an OP in the picture, too. It seems to mean that we are so awful that they would prefer nothing to us.

Of course, that's a crock, but it feels that way!

[Super Girl]

Yeah, Jeff, that's what I meant. If there was someone else, I could say hey, he found someone who is a better fit.

When there is no one, you know it's just you.

[K4D]

Makes sense.

Kevin

[TrentC]

When there is no one, you know it's just you.

No, when there is no one else you know it is just them.

[Virtually_Handsome]

There's no better or worse, sucks either way!

SG, it's not just you... we know better. It just feels that way.

[mlj]

It's like trying to decide if it's easier having them home or out of the house.

Some our heartbroken when they move out. Others are heartbroken when they continue to live at home and can see everything their spouse is doing. I am one of those. For over a year, I've seen H come home really late, not come home at all, take off on weekends, and text ow back when she texts him, right in front of me.

So, whether there is op or not, its still a heartbreaker. I thought ow would be a deal breaker for me also, but it wasn't. No one was more surprised than me at the way I've chosen to deal with it. I have to just keep telling myself that he's not himself right now. The one I married, would never have done this to us. It's sad.

MJ

[Gardener]

Sad Girl,

When there is no one, you know it's just you.

No, No, NO!

When there is no OP, they think, they believe, they are positive, they convince themselves that it's "just you."

It is not, "just you."