I wasn't trying to smack you down, just put you back on the path. Fear and hurt makes us lose sight.
How do you know he is still in love with her? He may still be in withdrawel from her. That is possible. It may also be possible that he is still in contact with her. How do you KNOW he is not? Contact in some capacity is the main contributer to keeping affair flames burning.
Please share some more details with us. If he is sober for nearly 11 months, that sounds like a huge positive. If he wants to watch the Love and Respect video with you, that seems like reasonable effort. If he goes to IC then he would be making the effort. If he is doing these things, then at some point you will start to be able to trust and feel better.
If what he is doing is better than before, you are moving in the right direction. If not than not.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
