I understand the emotions behind ripping up the picture, but I promise you that came across as pursuit, desperation and immaturity to her.
It's almost a truism: if you feel like doing something due to an emotional reaction -- especially if it's anger, sorrow, or fear -- it is almost certainly a bad idea, as far as DB'ing goes.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement