Nice to see you on here WTBB. I hope all is well on your homefront.
I hear you Trying...as far as I know there isn't anyone else in the picture. That would really suck if there was though.
Gina - what she talks about is the feeling for me. Is she truly in love other me? Will she be happier without me? That's what she's looking for...answers to that. (What she says anyway). We got married a few weeks before her 20th b'day. She has never known life on her own.
I'm not making excuses, but just reporting what she has told me. I personally don't think she has ever really grown up.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
All the more reason to pull back, stop her cake eating and set healthy boundaries for you and the little one. Let her live this seperate life ON HER OWN. Don't save her from the problems she has yet to discover that come with her choice. You aren't there to prop her up anymore.
Otherwise you are just prolonging bringing this to resolution.
I see the rest of my life as a journey. Where that leads, I don't know. But I know I will continue to learn about myself and others with a much different lens now. It's a bit scary and exciting at the same time.
I don't want to be D'd, but I am tired of auditioning for the part of my W's H and tired of trying to convince someone to love me.
I gotta tell you that you just nail it so often, that your posts often have me here yelling, "Yes! Yes! Exactly!!
And consider this: Journey = Adventure!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Oh, I know the waiting place very well. Coach recommended Dr. Seuss' "Oh The Places You Will Go.". There's a part in there about the waiting place and how everyone is stuck there b/c they are all waiting on everyone else to do something.
Sounds like you are heading in the right direction. But, I can promise you limboland means dying a slow death. She isn't gonna lead out of that place, so that responsibility falls to you.
Coach made some great posts on my thread in the last month on this topic.
Sorry to hear that. I agree, put the drink down. Grab a nice big glass of water, down it. Take a cold shower. Snuggle up in your bed and try to get a good nights rest. Take care.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
