GIMA - hopefully your W just needs help to find what she is looking for.
I think my W thinks there is something that she is missing. She says she loves me still (has recently). She has kissed me, been passionate with me, and slept with me only a few weeks ago. It makes it so much harder to accept that we are done. She's not planning to file for D at this point. She said she may miss me in a month and find the feelings that she has been missing. Then she said maybe 6 months from she will be independent and the happiest she has ever been.
My response was that I couldn't guarantee I would be open to her coming back. I said the door is open, but I can't keep it that way forever.
I'm going back and forth from the numbness.
I can't imagine how tough that would be - my W is the flip side of your's. My W has shown no affection, emotional support, hugs, kisses, much less anything else, since the bomb. With your sitch, I don't know if I could handle it. Can you?
If you can't, I think this needs to be a boundary. I'm sure you realize this is cake eating, right? She has you when SHE wants, but not when You want. Just saying, I couldn't do it.
As for the bit about her looking for the feelings she has been missing, you know she isn't going to find that, right. She's looking for someone else or something else to make her happy. Happiness comes from within. No place else.
Sorry man. That has to be rough. But you can handle this.
