These are the thoughts that are killing you my friend. The truth is we will never really know what they are thinking. You might be lucky enough to get a glimpse every now and then....but their reality is different than ours. I know it hurts, but you are doing good.
As far as sharing what you have learned....try to show her instead. Show her the Ayk that acknowledges his ADD. The one who has reprioritized his life. The Ayk who is not sh##ing himself, but instead is excelling.
Those actions will get results...wondering what the MLC is thinking will get you nowhere.