I do empathize as well - I have been in the same place and it sucks (frankly).
I tried setting boundaries which she violated in secret (until I caught her again) but I couldn't force her to leave, but at the same time I didn't want to file for D. Now I am there I think. I kept thinking she would wake up but she never did. Hopefully your situation turns out 'better' than mine did, but I am starting to feel like I am on solid ground now with myself and ready to look towards a new future without her.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline