DanceQueen, yes, I actually have the NMMNG book. Haven't read all of it, but I get the gist of it. So I know generally what you're referring to. Could you summarize in a few sentence what it is you see in your husband as a sort of "alpha quality"? It might mean something somewhat different for different women. So not saying what you say would apply to other women, but it would be interesting to hear your take on it. I presume it has something to do with his presence being independent of those around him, that he makes his own decisions, and has a strong sense of himself, and not needing the approval of everyone around him all the time. And he's not afraid to stand up to someone he disagrees with. And you know that if he does something, it's because he genuinely wants to do it, not because he feels like he needs to just to smooth things over with everyone. So you know you get honesty with him. And maybe also there is a bit of feeling that if he gives you a compliment, you know it's real. Something like that?
Gets kind of dangerous when a woman tries on new clothes and asks, does this dress make my butt look big? Hard to always be fully honest, if you know what I mean!
Did that answer all the questions, DanceQueen?
Cyrena, I know how much sex I want because I know my own biology from experience. I'm having as much sex as I want, just not with my wife, and not necessarily with anyone else either! So, not fantasy assumptions. Also recalling from past when we did have sex.
Staying in the marriage isn't all about my needs. I have a whole pack of kids. And again, the marriage is otherwise quite good. It just seems so silly to switch it all around just for this one bedroom activity, which takes relatively little time compared to sleeping.
