My advice to you is to get yourself an attorney. You will feel much better after you learn what your entitled to.
" Who Is This Stranger Living In My House? " is my thread. I am currently going through the D process while still living in the same house. He is in MLC, has ow, and filed for D almost a year ago. We have been married for twelve years, and he didn't want me to have much of anything either. He said I could have my car ( which I made the payments on ) my laptop ( which was a birthday present from him ) and my dogs ( one I had before I met him, the other was given to me as a Christmas present ) My attorney says he's in for a surprise.
Hang in there girl. They are not the ones who are thinking clearly. We are. They are in me me me mode.
I said exactly that, his response was...just remember that you made me want to leave.
And just remember, he's in total control of his actions. You didn't "make" him do anything. That's a crap answer to make you feel bad.
Stay strong.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It is possible to have a MSA where you just agree.... but you both have to trust the other. In your case, there's just no way that's going to happen.
If he wants to file for D, that's up to him. For you, it's time to Lawyer up, and make sure that you do whatever you have to to protect yourself and the kids. It's not about raking him over the coals, it's about protecting yourself.
You're right, MJ. I'm going to speak to one either later today or Friday. It just feels like once I do, there is no turning back. Thanks for sharing your story. I'll take a look at your sitch.
Trent, I'm trying to stay strong. I feel a little broken and sad today, though. I can't quite wrap my mind around who he is right now. Nothing he says makes sense. He tells me to move on, then makes comments about being glad one of us is moving on easily when he thinks I have. I told him not to email me any more D information, wished him a good holiday, and he said...right-o.
Trent, I'm trying to stay strong. I feel a little broken and sad today, though. I can't quite wrap my mind around who he is right now. Nothing he says makes sense. He tells me to move on, then makes comments about being glad one of us is moving on easily when he thinks I have. I told him not to email me any more D information, wished him a good holiday, and he said...right-o.
It's hard when you see someone that you love so much behaving in a completely different, alien, unloving fashion.
I wish I had something I could say that would make it better, or have it make sense. Just remember that he is dealing with this in his own way, and hurting people sometimes to hurtful things. Have some sympathy and pity for him.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It's all right. I've called friends of mine in tears, or on the verge of tears, since this started.
I can't imagine that I'd be doing much better if our situations were reversed.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I don't hate my tbx, and we should be D'd Monday. It's disappointing, but it is the right thing.
As far as the kids go, this is where you have to lead. They will follow you. So you have got to be strong. They don't need to be a part of whatever legal hassle comes, it isn't their concern. Don't let this ruin your life, and it won't ruin their's.
