Your thread made me think about my own sitch, and I really dont think that if he tried to come back I could do it. One of the things that was glaringly obvious when he visited me was that I have made some incredible changes, and he still the exact same man he was when he walked out!
I look at my married friends and get jealous, but I have been told that they look at me and get jealous too!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...