It looks like a lot of things are crashing down on you at once. I had to laugh about S coloring all over the front door, refrigerator and piano. My D7 did that all the time. It made W mad to no end, but it's just a phase and someday you'll actually miss it a little.
Where's your family in all this? On an earlier post you said you had a good support group didn't you? Sounds like it's time to lean on them.
I did not realize OW was a nine-year thing. The closer H gets to you and the harder he tries, at some point you are going to have to either set down the firm boundary -- no OW or just decide to let go.
Happy Thanksgiving tomorrow.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
