Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

[Kalni]

A&K : I adore you enough to say that I doubt very much that your wise-cracking, quick to respond, mentally exhausting arguments don't affect your relationships with women (btw , takes one to know one so I'm calling it on myself too). (
My own biggest 180, life gets so much easier, after a while, no one is "there" and you are only fighting yourself!

I've been trying to say this for quite some time now, you didnt take my advice, I dont mind...

Imagine if your W/GF is frustrated and is trying to get through to you. Imagine how it feels to be faced with a "word sword play" all the time... After a while it gets VERY tiring and discouraging. After a while, you dont care to know what is right or wrong anymore. You just want someone that will listen. (Very good soil for OPs to grow!)

Chill SP, enjoy your trip.
K

[SmileysPerson]

Nice.

WAW apparently has got Themselves referring to the house wherein Smiley's Person abides -- the house in which they grow up -- as "your house" (i.e., your Smiley's Person's house) -- and her new townhouse, wherein they might spend as many as 12 nights a month, as "our house."

Now perhaps this fails the Principia Sheen, but that's just dirty pool.

[antlers]

My WAS has been referring to the house our children consider their home and grew up in as "your house" ever since she left. Her place is "my house".

[hoosiermama]

Ditto. Standard issue. Par for the course. SSDD.

[orangedog]

Yes, that dirty pool if she's playing name games.

Do they do this consistently? Sometime little selves get "ours", "yours", "mine", "my", "his", "hers" mixed. "Mine" is usually the default.

Next time:

"Our house?" This is "our house" too. You have your bed, toys, dog, (list of stuff)...and Dad here. Mom and Dad both love you and want you to feel at home no matter which house you're at. Next time just call it "Mom's house" or "Dad's house".

Yeah, it still sucks it has to be this way. My youngest doesn't like Dad's house very much and is scared to go downstairs. It's the best we can do.

[Greek]

I think children just naturally think that where Mom is - that's home. She probably didn't have to initiate that at all.

Cheers ~
Greek

[SmileysPerson]

It's clearly a change, @Greek.

Since the end of June when WAW split, it's been "our house" and "Mom's new house." I know for a fact she didn't like that; in her words, "I wish the kids would act like my place is a home."

When I took them to school last Friday, they asked, "Are we going to Mommy's house or our house tonight?" I told them they were spending the weekend and some extra days at their mother's house, since she was going away for the holiday weekend.

When I saw them last night (I had to take The Boy to his football practice because WAW had a late work thing) it was: "Are we sleeping at our house tonight, or are we going to yours, Daddy?"

When I said, "My house? Isn't it our house?" they both looked at each other with that uh-oh-we'd-better-shut-up look that guilty kids have -- the one they don't think we recognize is that look.

[Greek]

Again, I just think that is how little guys and girls tend to see things. And as Mom got settled in her place, it changed from "Mom's new house" to our house.

Let it go. If you are already seeing the 'guilty' look, let 'em off that hook. Leave it alone with them.

Greek

[SmileysPerson]

Dinner. Sitting around the (new) kitchen table.

Dad: "So, did you two have fun over the weekend with your Mom?"

Boy: "Yeah, I guess."

Girl: "Mommy says that's none of your business."

Dad: "Okay. So, what do you want to do tomorrow?"

[Gardener]

Perfect non-reactive non-answer!
Happy Thanksgiving, SP!