Detaching has nothing to do with the value others bring to your life; it simply means you let go of trying to control the who, when, why and how. It helps you become a person that attracts the who you want, and hopefully the when, how and why follows.
That's a very good way of putting it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
