The biggest clue is that a normal person who didn't have someone else in the picture would say this when you told them you were sorry for your mistakes and want to make them right...
"Well, what do I have to lose? I guess I can give it another chance since he seems so sincere. We do have a history together so I guess I can see if he is serious."
You see? They really have nothing to lose. When there is nobody else they are open to your changes.
Now. When they DON'T want to try, then it is a sure bet that they are emotionally invested somewhere else. Did you ever watch the Tarzan movies? He swings from vine to vine. HOWEVER, he doesn't let go of one vine UNTIL he has the next one in his grasp. He then stops thinking about the vine he just had his security invested in and is now invested in the new vine.
That is how it usually goes with humans.They hang on to the vine that they have with a tight grasp until the next vine is within their grasp. They kinda hold on to both vines at once until they are sure they next vine is secure enough to let go of the last one. If they have no new vine coming at them then they keep swinging on the one they have within their grasp. They don't let go if there is no other vine. Too scary.
This is why you must find out the truth. You can't bust the divorce without all the facts. The reasons she is giving you most certainly don't make sense UNLESS there is someon new.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
