Is my Wife Cheating?

[Deep]

My 2 cents for what it's worth ...

- Don't make promises you are not sure of right now. You are by your own admission emotionally affected by the whole sitch. You WILL want to talk about the A. You will probably be hurt, resentful, and angry at times. That's human. She could interpret that as throwing it in her face if it does happen.

- Don't expect complete honesty and transparency, and don't expect to get all the details, not right now for sure. I don't think it works that way.

- Don't be surprised if she swings from clinging/ ashamed to resentful / aggressive when the OM-withdrawal hits at times. Oh, and while it's great to see your own faults that led to this, don't be harder on yourself than what the facts are. WASes have a tendency to re-write history to justify their actions (which is unjustifiable unless there is abuse or special circumstances). Leave the demonising to her, she'll do a good enough job on her own. I would say however, that "involuntary" is probably the wrong word. "unconscious" might be more accurate - you have to take responsibility for your own past choices too.

... and yeah guess it's worth just that couple of pennies . Keep doing good!